I was woken last night by two phone calls. The first was to tell me a client had been stabbed. The second was to update that he wasn't actually stabbed, although a knife was involved in the incident. He was at the hospital and although lacerations needed to be dressed, he was OK and he would be coming home. He'd be home; he'd be safe; he'd be back with his house mate and team.
Earlier this week I was having a general conversation about parenting. In supporting all the kids that have come and gone through GSL, I marvel at the innate bond they share with their parents. Many years ago a young person we were supporting was 'fatally attracted' to her mother. This young person had been removed from her mother by Child Safety and as soon as she turned 18, and was no longer under the Department's guardianship, she hightailed back. Through all the stories of what her mother was doing to her, and her resolutions that she was not going to have anything to do with her mother after something happened, she always went back. After six years, this young person and her mother continue to be locked in an on-again-off-again, sometimes volatile, relationship.
The perpetrator of last night's incident? The young man's mother. It's almost the same story - just with different people. The young man was removed by Child Safety when he was a child, and as soon as he turned 18, he reformed relationship.
All I can say is our biological need for family is strong.
Last night he called his team. They responded. The ambulance they organised took him to hospital. He was met at the hospital by them and he was comforted by them. He was taken home and today he is feeling sore and awful. His team is there for him. All of this he knew he could rely on when he called in the middle of the night to say he'd been in a fight.
Care, love and biological bond are such different human drivers. Our GSL 'kids' have disability, mostly intellectual impairment or ASD, and because of this I would argue their emotional drivers are less directed by intellectual processing than peers. Their behaviour is more emotionally driven than intellectually rationalised. I'm not sure if I'm putting two and two together and coming up with five, but it seems biological pull is very strong in our guys.
We can all have our thoughts and judgements about other people's lives as we walk alongside in different roles. It's not for us to impose. All I can say is I am amazed by the strength of our basic human need for family.